This topic serves to further divide. This topic creates further dissention among the ranks. Their are some people who want to be married and some who don’t…for whatever reason. When it comes down to it, if you KNOW that you are allergic to toxicity of any kind perhaps being thrust into a situation that forces two individuals to negotiate, and often come to terms with their own mess -is far too much to confront.
There are those who have acknowledged that they do not WANT to share their space with someone who is ever changing and growing (hopefully). MEN AND WOMEN are being big little grown ups and acknowledging that the arranged marriages, coordinated courtships and semi-forced fornication is a bunch of rushed crap intended to ensure timely procreation.
BREATHE. SLOW DOWN. GROW.
As one ages, the realization that slow and steady often wins the race becomes more of relationship mantra than the preconceived perceptions of foremother prerequisites.
Gambling at love, multiple times is just not for everyone…nor is the “one shot at happiness” theory. So somewhere in between there are those who believe that life is not contingent upon being married. Having a healthy viable relationship that is mature and wise, settled and patient-is more appealing to those who truly distain drama.
There are absolutely no guarantees but being a fool that rushed in is definitely not the move especially in today’s fast paced, insecure, low esteemed, over medicated, disease riddled, less connected, hyperactive, illiterate, economically defunct culture.
Ms. MacMillian offers some interesting points however, the ‘mixed messages’ offering is a striking arguement. Interestingly, the author states that women possess these ‘awful’ characteristics that keep them from entering the relationships that they seek. But on the other hand, she also states that women are selfish. Then why tell women to procreate without a stable relationship? How much more selfish can it be for a woman to bring another life into this world without it knowing it’s other half?
Denying a child access to ALL of her existance is further perpetuating the cycle of relation-less households within the world. It is very dangerous to encourage the very behaviors that cause what prevents healthy unions in the first place.
The perspective of this particular would be ‘feminist’, must be (like everything else)taken with a grain of salt and in this case followed by a shot of future impacts.
*IN RESPONSE TO http://www.huffingtonpost.com/tracy-mcmillan/why-youre-not-married_b_822088.html?ref=tw
#BeMindful of what we allow into our reasoning…