DOMESTIC VIOLENCE IS NOT ALWAYS PHYSICAL.
A twitter message posted that sparked a violent reaction from some unknown arbitrary MAN who happens to be in the media industry.
The male attempted to ‘correct’ the author of the tweet by ‘informing’ the individual that by definition violence is ALWAYS physical. He further proceeded to become further agitated when the lady responded kindly, she KNEW that she was in fact accurate and the attempted correction was unfounded.
The contention was that VIOLENCE is a destructive action and therefore any assault to another’s mental health, emotional stability and/or economic stability is in fact a violent act that is continued contitutes as ABUSE.
The assailant told the woman to “GOOGLE” the word violence to get a better understanding of his reason for the need to correct the unknown sociological professor for whom he had initiated contact. The educator proceeded to reference one of the leading sources of definitions known to modern man…a good old fashioned Webster’s Dictionary.
There were a few issues with this brief exchange that warranted this post.
1. As an educator the information that people are accessing to convey their truth evidently is not the noted authority that everyone seems to believe. When seeking answers have we as a society become too lazy to actually reference written literature on the subject versus settling for the cliff note version of the answer provided by many online sources.
2. The interaction regarding violence became violent when the ‘corrector’ was approached lovingly. He stated that the author of the tweet needed to access “Google” (first error) and cross reference the theory otherwise risk sounding more “STUPID”. In actuality, the perceived defense exhibited by the male elevated his demeanor to verbal abuse to put the target “in line”. At that moment he embodied the word VIOLENCE. His facts had not been checked yet he was hell bent on correcting the unknown female. Even when he conceded, he still found a way to minimize the ‘voice’ of the female by stating that he agrees with the theory but “you used the wrong word”. In that instance, the right word was used in the context for which it was intended.
The single line sentence was successful because it invoked a response that substantiated its original assertion (Sociology 101).
3. Was this a type of bullying? A blanket statement that was not directed at any one person specifically, became personalized and acted out based on one’s receivership of whatever sentiment they extracted. The author of the tweet was in no way targeting the person that responded yet could one determine that the male respondant may have a propensity towards violence/violent acts and/or abuse based on HOW he interacted with the female based on the simplistic statement? Is that judgement?