In an era where lily white pundants are more concerned about the volume of the first ladies posterior rather than the merits that launched her into the “RIGHT HAND WOMAN” position- Black women still are questioned, denied, chastized and minimized despite successes because of false perceptions conceived by those who know nothing of what the weight of this world feels like.
Having a mate who is an equal rather than a combatant is the issue that many brown women face. Here a survey has been conducted by the Washington Post and Kaiser Permanente to unearth the specific reasons why Black women are not rushing to the alter. The reasons are psycho social for the most part and have resonated into our communities.
Career for black women has always been about economic necessity and also a sense of economic destiny,”
says White, editor of the nation’s oldest black women’s magazine, Essence.
Despite miraculous income and educational gains for generations, the social and economic advancement of black women has always been precarious,” says Paula J. Giddings, who teaches at Smith College and has written about the political and social history of black women. “All of our wealth and all of the generational aspiration can disappear — just evaporate — if you lose your house, your health, if you have to take care of a needy family member or if you can’t get that loan to continue college.”
“…I survived. Black women know that we’ve got to take care of it — so we take care of it. It’s just embedded in us.”
But there is also this, according to interviews with black women: Many were not raised to expect that they could marry a fairy-tale Prince Charming who would take care of them, provide for the family, leave them with no worries.
No, this was not the writer’s conditioned perception of things. My grandmother’s grandmother taught the women of the family “Not to ever rely on a pair of pants to provide for you and yours”. The harsh notion was instilled in all of the girls as a result of years of their men being sold and/or killed and them having to be left to raise the abundance of “field hands” that they made together. Fairy tales have never been factored into the queenly robes that the women in my family adorn. If anything, a slight distain was ingrained so that reliance was NEVER an expectation.
Significant statistics are presented within the article that speak to a quiet concensus. The trends speak to : Black women seeking marriage outside of their race, delaying marriage to follow career pursuits, as well as paint a contrasting view of things opposed to white counterparts.