Hundreds of thousands were earned so a princess could become a queen.
If he is not willing to put in the same amount of work then it just won’t work.
Persuasion …forceful, ineffective or just plain lack thereof
Lack of Participation
Irreparable fiscal trauma/damage
Baby mama drama
Unresolved issues that keep him emotionally detached or unavailable….
Damn it man you have got to be able to work on building a relationship by building a better you!
Fellas have been reduced to being used as sperm donors and they know it. Sisters, of all races- will not put up with any semblance of lazy from any resemblance of what was promised to be a man (the package).
Messages are sent as children that daddy just won’t be there….
Boys grow up almost believing that they are not “wanted”, “needed” nor valued in the household that he thought he was creating with what he thought was a “good woman” based on the size of her posterior.
Sexing, fornicating, and just plain ole fuckin’ has blinded our vision. Listening to the lyrics in many of the “popular” songs reinforces the fact that all we can think about is getting some ass. The lack of discipline keeps marriages from enduring the long haul. The lack of focus keeps relationships from staying on course and out of the tabloids.
How can women trust men to love them if they are watching at the destruction the brothers are bringing to themselves and to everything around them? The lack of self love is a strong red flag and sadly everybody that is brown and living in urban areas is waving about two or three…at least.
We are damaged from years of dealing with damaged people. We are harboring pains and deep love wounds that have cut so deeply that the tears have been mistaken for blood.
And what about the wo/men that have those secret desires that are not really known until the computer screen shows the images of the pedophiliac activities, and the online chats that are justified as being completely harmless because they are “make believe”, yet his ass gets beside himself when his phone is lost or misplaced. Yes, the lusting after things that were not intended for grown men to need or want are must haves. Brothers running down to the strip club and 14th street corner to specially order the little hot ass girls who never got any affirmation from their own daddies. Or the brothers who secretly want to be with their own brothers, bringing home every type of known disease back home to the wife, girlfriend, kids and family members.
If that wasn’t enough then there are those who feel they will control you into submission. A woman will ‘obey’ what I say or she will get acid poured on her face, burned alive or decapitated.
Kids are killing their parents.
News reports have reported brothers killing their parents in cold blood for money, older children actually plotting to kill their aging parents to be rid of the burden. For those who study the environment the questions, the uncertainty almost convinces the woman to remain single and without child.
Buying into the concept of marriage seems to be overrated. “I can do bad by myself” adversely “I can be a movement when we’re together” provided it’s the right one. These adages speak to the choices that we make regarding the person we decide with whom we mate.
There are a few couples that any of us can count on one hand that actually make it. What of those instances where even the couple that we all looked to as inspiration suddenly call it quits after fifty years of being together?
There are others who would just rather go their own way and never divorce. They just stay forever “separated” so that they won’t have to take “HALF” or give “HALF” of the nothing that they’ve already not got.
But if given the opportunity anyone who loves love would gladly say “I DO”.
DN Shropshire, MA