“Look at them and look at us” …..the condescending, belittling-cliquish immature correction often used by mean girls to control their social group. Sadly the same type of psychological programming occurs in families as well.
I was raised to believe that we must learn how to get along with all people. Unfortunately many people in my circles have not been raised to believe the same.
The comment struck me to my core. The person that I thought I knew since we were both in our late teens-seemed to have converted to the dark side.
The measure of selfishness that it takes to overtly state a superficial unfounded distain for someone that one has never met, purely based on their socio economic status and/or physical appearance in pictures is ridiculous! However, most of the social networking sites are contingent upon the very same behavior.
Stronger morally based individuals have hopefully developed stronger filters and can discern fact from fiction. Those blessed enough to have garnered a stronger sense of self tend to shut out the pitiful attempts of the insecure and unsure to make them feel as inadequate as the assailants feel about themselves. However, the evidence of such a weighty pain is uncomfortable, at best.
To witness the projection of another person’s (particularly someone that you care about) misery morphs into sensations of warp speed paper cuts lacerating one’s perception of the “hater”.
Should the balanced- re-evaluate communion with the unknowing or less balanced? Does the balanced individual become as bad as the “hater” by considering whether to disassociate from her/him? Or is it a matter of preservation?
Those of us who are mid thirty-something and older should definitely not be functioning as if we are still in high school and college.
The evolution of interactionism calls for maturity. It beckons for the players to move beyond that which kept us from becoming evolved in the first place. Relationship building and sustenance must involve LOVE. Love for self, for others and for something beyond self. Hurt people hurt people, is an adage that is absolutely more evident today than ever before.
Apparently there are still some vestiges that refuse to move beyond acting like a bunch of caty mean girls.
Republicans/politics, Big business and Tea Party-ists (special interest groups), have run away with “mean girl” and/or “bullying” tactics to smear someone who is trying to work cooperatively rather than in the interest of one side or the other. He is different and to some honored for stirring up the pot. The original social scenario has been relevantly been correlated to a political chasm.
Ok we get it YOU are in pain and feel it necessary to project that negativity on everything and everybody around you….but damn!!! When is maturity going to become how adults behave? The ability to engage with others on a basically human level seems incomprehensible to some. Personally I’m tired of it all the way around.
Since the age of seventeen, the desire to wholly commit to a honestly adult conversation has been as elusive as that dang unicorn that was plastered on the wall, as an inanimate poster.
GROW UP!!!! For everyone’s sake….